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    Mark Forster is the author of three books about time management and personal organisation. The most recent, Do It Tomorrow, was published by Hodder in 2006.

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    Dec192006

    Top 10 Tips for Keeping Your Life Moving

    I had my last session for my last-but-one remaining coaching client yesterday, and he asked me what my Top Ten tips were to keep him on the “straight and narrow” in the future.

    My answers were off the top of my head, but I think they are well worth repeating. So here are my top ten ways in which to keep your life moving in the direction you want.

    1. Be clear about what your major life goals are. You can’t have direction in your life unless you know what that direction is. So be clear where you are going in the major areas of your life, such as work, family, etc. Ideally you just want one goal in each life area.
    2. When you’ve decided what your major goals are, make a commitment to them. This consists of two parts: what you are going to do as a result of the commitment, and what you are going to stop doing as a result of the commitment. Of the two, the second is the more important and the one most frequently neglected.
    3. Decide what the ideal structure of your day, week and year would be, and go all out to get it into place. You can’t balance your life effectively without structure, and it’s no good having a structure which you can’t keep up in the long term.
    4. If you are starting a new business, remember that it must be financed properly. This includes working out what you need to live on during the two or three years before your business becomes profitable. During the first two or so years of a new business, you will put in a lot of work for very little immediate reward. If you are not prepared for this your business will almost certainly founder.
    5. Always work on identifying the key actions that are going to make the real difference. You can faff around being busy as much as you like, but being busy in itself is not what brings success. Success comes from focussing on the actions that are going to take you and your business forward.
    6. Keep moving. The biggest reason why people don’t get projects completed is because they fail to keep moving on them. A project is like a house plant. Water it daily and it will thrive. Neglect it and it will die.
    7. When you give yourself a specific amount of time to work on something, keep to the allotted time to the minute. Stopping dead leaves you wanting more. Trailing on until you run out of ooomph means you have run out of ooomph.
    8. Being able to estimate how long a project or a task is going to take is a very valuable skill, and one which very few people have. You can greatly improve your skills at this by writing down your estimate of how long you think a task or project will take, and then comparing your estimate with how long it actually does take.
    9. If you are having difficulty getting started on something, then focus on the first step. Make the first step small enough so that you can easily do it. Once you’ve taken the first step, then it’s much easier to keep going.
    10. Take time out to weed your commitments on a regular basis. Never forget that if you have more commitments than you can cope with, some of them (possibly all of them) are going to get done badly. If you take on a commitment which you don’t do properly, the time you do spend on it is wasted. You would be better off using that time on doing your most important commitments really well.

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    Reader Comments (9)

    Does anyone have any tips for finding out/setting what your major life goals could be? How many life goals should you have? How do you decide what is a "major" life goal? Many thanks.
    April 17, 2007 at 11:52 | Unregistered CommenterNicky Perryman
    I found a good starting point for me was thinking about being at the end of my life, looking back. What achievements would you like to be looking back on? What things would you really regret not having done? Also remember goals can cover experiences or activities as well as more traditional achievements.

    April 28, 2007 at 9:50 | Unregistered CommenterCarole
    Doesnt so much of success come down to being deliberate about our lives?
    Thinking before we do?
    I'm struck by the concept Forster puts forth about creating distance between ourselves and our activity. My trick is to ask myself, "What would a really clever chap do right now?" Works pretty well...
    June 13, 2007 at 0:00 | Unregistered CommenterMark M
    I have a love-hate relationship with this idea that goal setting is vital in life.
    I think it's equally important to be able to go with the flow of life, to be open to experiences that pop up along the way.
    I became much better at being spontaneous in my thirties and my life has improved no end.
    July 11, 2008 at 20:10 | Unregistered CommenterChris Beale
    Hi Chris

    Yes, I too find being spontaneous very valuable.

    Right now I am trying to find the balance I want between useful structure and 'going with the flow' as you say. I think too little structure and there is a tendency to drift - letting life happen to you rather than making things happen. However, too much structure - or should that be too tight a structure - and the really important things in life like noticing all the things around you, smelling the roses, etc. get missed and they are the very things that make life sprititually fulfilling.

    I like finding the balance between doing and being. As kids we seemed to manage this quite intuitively (well, I did as a kid but then I was lucky to have grown up in an era where you could spend all day outside with your mates not sitting inside on your PC or being watched by an adult all the time).

    Have yet to find the answer but I think it's an important point you raise...
    July 11, 2008 at 23:03 | Unregistered CommenterHannah
    There's some more discussion about goalless living elsewhere on this site (use the Search box to find it).

    I think one of the lessons I have learned in life is that it takes structure to be spontaneous. The best example I can think of is the difference between channel-surfing on the TV (which tends to leave one with the feeling that one has been wasting one's time) and watching a selected TV programme that you want to see (which tends to make you feel you have had an enjoyable experience).

    July 12, 2008 at 16:49 | Registered CommenterMark Forster
    Think---what would i like to be --a writer --a clown --- etc.---then research the job ,career
    Plan the finance---saving money ---before --you start the journey and each week whilst your getting there
    Pick up the phone get the lessons
    Meet the people
    Travel to where its at---
    Keep checking the finance
    enjoy going for it
    October 11, 2008 at 1:04 | Unregistered Commenterartdeco
    For figuring out your true passion, I recommend "I could do anything, if I only knew what it was" by Barbara Sher. Just reading it won't do it, you've got to do the work.
    October 21, 2009 at 20:52 | Unregistered CommenterZoe
    My problem i sthat I plan a lot and implement maybe little or none at all....what do you suggest for such a rare and confusing case like mine ?
    December 6, 2009 at 17:41 | Unregistered CommenterHotslings

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